I Don’t Need Feminism Because I CAN Do It All–But Don’t Want To

Ugh, “feminism.” Where to begin…

I’m not someone that’ll join a (trendy online) cause and believe in it with all my might. Which is why I was so surprised at how much I identified with the Women Against Feminism (AKA “I Don’t Need Feminism”) movement.

I mean over the years I had been growing tired of the term “feminism” for a variety of reasons, so to know that there were others like me and that I wasn’t the only woman out there who was plain tired of the whole feminism shindig was plain delightful.

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WHEN YOU SAY “FEMINIST,” I THINK OF A WOMAN WHO…

• Is not only pro-abortion but also…
  • …pro-“not paying for her own birth control”
• Is promiscuous and is all for having her employer pay her to get rid of a potential human being for her
• Wants CHANGE, CHANGE, CHANGE but either whines, whines, whines or does nothing about it
• Thinks of men as the ones to beat
• Would choose a job over her family
• Wants to make a statement by not allowing her daughter to play with dolls or wear dresses

Feminists would like me to think that they’re the reason why I have “choices” in the first place, but that’s simply not true.

FEMINISTS DIDN’T GIVE ME CHOICES; SOCIETY DID

Feminists allowed my gender to gain suffrage and own property in this country, granted, but everything else has been a mere outcome of a fully functioning society. We can go out on our own, drive cars unaccompanied, hang out with men who aren’t relatives, go to school, work, and do much more not because a woman stood up decades ago to make it that way.

(If that were enough, why are some countries in the Middle East, where women have actually stood up to change their depressing status quo still as progressively retarded as they’ve been for centuries?)

No, women today can make choices because women in this country and most other industrialized nations have always been able to make choices.

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We don’t need to discriminate against men to gain progress; hell, we don’t even need to discriminate against ourselves to do so. Are you a feminist? Black? Latina? Anglo? Tall? Curvy? I don’t care because life and so-called progress isn’t about divisions; it’s about unity. Let’s not segregate ourselves and pit ourselves against one another and expect to achieve change via divides because we won’t.

If what you want is betterment in your life, YOU take the first step, dear feminist, instead of creating chaos and inciting crowds. That doesn’t lead to change here; it might in less developed areas of the world, but not here.

IS FEMINISM REALLY AT FAULT HERE?

A recent article (on a conservative site, but still worth it) states that men are giving up on marriage “because women aren’t women anymore”:

[F]eminism… has created an environment in which young men find it more beneficial to simply opt out of couple-dom entirely.

(Sad, huh?) Now although I appreciate the article as a whole, I didn’t like how it believed in two extremes, Feminism vs. Submission (right?), when it shouldn’t be that way:

With feminism pushing them out of their traditional role of breadwinner, protector and provider–and divorce laws increasingly creating a dangerously precarious financial prospect for the men cut loose from marriage–men are simply no longer finding any benefit in it.

But can’t women be the breadwinners as well? If I feel like going to grad school and getting a job afterwards–regardless of my husband’s career situation–can’t I do that?

Feminism and the sexual revolution have simply made marriage “obsolete” for women as a social and economic refuge, but this is a situation that should not be celebrated by feminists…

However, I don’t want to get married because of society or finances, but rather because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him.

Feminism, which teaches women to think of men as the enemy, has made women “angry” and “defensive, though often unknowingly.”

Those are the feminists I can’t stand. (Though aren’t they all like that?)

“Men are tired … of being told there’s something fundamentally wrong with them. Tired of being told that if women aren’t happy, it’s men’s fault.”

But: happy wife, happy wife :P

I’M NOT A FEMINIST–OR NEED MODERN “FEMINISM” BECAUSE…

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• I’m pro-life. Actually, I’m pro-choice: I’m pro-CHOOSING between letting a baby live and letting a baby live, period.
  • I’m pro-“paying for my own birth control” when the time comes
• I’m not promiscuous. In fact, I’m a man- and love-loving monogamist
• I take action when I want CHANGE, CHANGE, CHANGE
• I don’t thinks of men as the ones to beat because they’re awesome and I need and want them
• I would choose family over work
• I’ll encourage my daughter to play with dolls, wear dresses, and like me, even play with cars and boats
• I look for and value chivalry
• I love acting like a lady and being treated like one by a gentleman
• “I don’t need to vilify men to get what I want”
• I genuinely enjoy serving the men in my life, be they my dad, boyfriends, etc. I like showing them they’re special. >> That’s not oppression!
• I’m not a victim

BUT PERHAPS THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON FOR WHY I’M NOT A FEMINIST

I CAN do it all, but I don’t want to: I could forego getting married and having a kid but (unless God has other plans) I’d rather find a father for that future kid than making a statement by depriving that kid of a father. I can move heavy boxes and drive myself anywhere but I let my dad help because he likes it. I can open tight jars but I let a boyfriend help because he likes it. Men like to feel needed (in my dad’s case, I’m his only child so he treasures doing things for me) and, what can I say, I like to oblige!

Have you ever heard the phrase “bad feminist”? Apparently, it’s a real term/phenomenon that defines the kinds of women who are OK with doing things because their husbands/boyfriends like them, choosing to marry, or wearing pink, among others. But what they don’t realize is that there is NO such thing as being a “bad feminist”; you’re a woman! Enjoy it! Cherish it! And for the love of all that’s rosy, embrace your womanhood–and the men who adore it!

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The list of reasons for why I can’t stand modern “feminism” goes on and on but I’d like to know where YOU stand, lovelies! So: what are your thoughts?